Divorce can be complicated for families, especially for teenagers who already face the challenges that come with adolescence. However, there are ways for you to support your teen and help them overcome this difficult time.
Communicate
Keep the lines of communication open. Listen to your child and remember that even though they are teenagers, they are still growing up and learning to regulate their emotions. Allow them to express themselves freely while setting boundaries of respect so the conversation is productive.
Validate
Teenagers experience many feelings during divorce, and they may not know how to label those feelings. When they try to express their feelings, validate whatever they say by actively listening and repeating what you hear. Be curious, not judgmental, about how they feel and what they express.
Stability
Ensure that you continue having the same routines as much as possible. Even though your teenager will experience changes, especially if one parent moves out and begins visiting them on the weekends, try to keep everything else as before. Children and teens thrive on routine and do better when they know what is coming.
Professional help
If your teen is struggling at school or experimenting with alcohol or drugs, seek professional help as soon as you can. Intervening earlier rather than later can be the key to helping your teen change or stop harmful behavior and return to healthy habits.
Everyone in the family experiences divorce differently, but science shows that children and teenagers often struggle through this process. Being there for them as their parent, listening to them and validating their feelings and thoughts can support them and make them feel heard and understood.