Making the hard decision to file for divorce is a significant and often emotionally charged decision that impacts every area of your life, some of which you may expect and others that may surprise you. It is fair to say that divorce can often feel like your world is turning upside down.
Yet, it is critical to remember that this is a temporary emotion. You will get back to yourself, back on your feet and have the opportunity to begin again. Things to know before you file for divorce include:
Your state’s laws
Familiarizing yourself with your state’s divorce laws is important because every state’s laws differ. In some cases, they are so different that you would not know the states at issue are in the same country.
For this reason, speaking with an experienced attorney in your area can help tremendously. They will guide you through the state’s residency requirements, grounds for divorce and the court process involved.
They will also explain alternatives to divorcing through the courts, such as mediation or collaborative divorce.
Finances first
You need to make a living and need money to survive. Before you file for divorce, speak with your attorney to ensure you have a financial plan in place for yourself and, if you have children, for them too. It is imperative to have a solid strategy if you have kids.
Your attorney may ask for financial documents, so set aside pay stubs, tax returns, and budgets for the present and prior years so your attorney can help you create a path forward.
Living arrangements
While this may seem commonsensical, it is not always something people consider. If the other party gets the house you shared with them, where will you live? Do you have the means, income and credit necessary to obtain a lease? Knowing your living arrangements should be one of the first things you address.
Emotional challenges
Most people imagine divorce to be emotionally challenging, but imagining it is entirely different from actually experiencing it. There is a reason why divorce is one of the most difficult times in a person’s life, and that is because it is.
Put together a robust support system and know where to go for help to prepare for the emotional rollercoaster of divorce.
Having an attorney is a good start, but you will also need emotional support, perhaps from a professional, a divorce support group, help from friends and family and lots of self-care to get through this challenging time in one piece.